Be forewarned; I'm about to go on a mini-tirade, but please bear with me, because I think you'll be on board.
I'm going to smack the next person who smirks, "Are you having twins???" at me.
How can women, and ONLY WOMEN have asked me that, be so rude? Besides pointing out that I'm obviously very pregnant, that comment alludes that not only am I huge, I'm clearly too huge to be "just" pregnant. I am so big that it begs a public forum. I must be pregnant with multiples. Even in pregnancy I can't escape the constant body criticism of our culture. I can't remember ever saying that to a woman who was pregnant; mostly I remember thinking things like wow, I bet she's uncomfortable or will I get that big?
It's already borderline inappropriate to be asking pregnant strangers about their pregnancies anyway. I mean, think about it; if I saw a man walking around with a cane, could I politely inquire as to how much longer he'll be needing that cane? Or what's wrong with his leg? Not so much, because strangers asking other strangers about personal issues is generally not considered acceptable small talk.
I know what you're thinking: "Just smile, say 'no,' and don't let it bother you." No f*$(%ing way. It's invasive. It's rude. It's my right to go about my business without strangers commenting on my body. And while part of me wants to respond with, "Twins? No, I'm just really really fat," I'll refrain, because as we all know two nasty comments just make two assholes instead of one. But it's not my job to remain completely polite in the face of such inappropriateness.
This relates back to what I spoke about recently, about women judging women. I am just continually surprised and dismayed, as I traverse these typical feminine roles, of how much other women heap degradation, judgement, and their own baggage on my (very obviously 9-months-pregnant) back.
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